9 Tips to Entice a Valentine to "Lean In" to Addiction Recovery
CHICAGO, February 12, 2015
In honor of Valentine's Day, Gateway Alcohol & Drug Treatment reminds couples that selfless act of love can rekindle an unwavering sense of purpose in their Valentines'. Without a doubt, the power of love can help people unhook from alcoholism and/or drug addiction and "lean in" to their recovery.
"An act of concern and support may arouse a renewed sense of personal power in others, which changes their perspective from 'feeling forced' or powerless to change to 'feeling confident' or capable of change," explains John Larson M.D., Corporate Medical Director, Gateway Treatment Centers.
Building self-confidence and sense of purpose in Valentines requires genuine respect and judgment-free affection from reliable "agents of change." To help encourage an exploratory approach versus a confrontation about substance abuse concerns, Gateway offers nine tips:
1. Get smart about effects of alcoholism and drug abuse as well as potential treatment options to help facilitate productive discussions.
2. Timing is extremely important. Choose a time when he or she is sober and the mood is calm.
3. Set a caring and supportive tone for the conversation--anything less may backfire.
- "You haven't seemed to be yourself lately. Is everything okay?"
- "What can I do to help alleviate the situation?"
4. Use open-ended questions to elicit underlying feelings.
- "It's not uncommon for people to drink alcohol to try to appease their tough thoughts and feelings. What are some memories and feelings that trigger drinking?"
5. Talk less, listen more. Listen and respect everything he or she has to say, and resist interrupting.
- "What are some of the things that make you happy when you're not drinking?"
- "What are some of the not-so-good things about drinking?"
6. Use affirming statements to demonstrate understanding and to validate a loved one's feelings. Validating a person's feelings–no matter what he or she has to say–can help encourage self-guided change.
- "You are under a tremendous amount of pressure so it's no wonder you feel so overwhelmed."
- "That must have been devastating. I'm sorry you had to go through that."
7. Take with a grain of salt any accusations of blame or verbal abuse, and refrain from engaging in arguments.
- "I understand this isn't easy to talk about so I'm going to let that one go."
8. Substance abuse rattles one's self esteem so be sure to express he or she deserves better, and is capable of achieving whatever change is desired.
- "I'm not giving up on you. You are the most amazing person I know."
9. If shut down, don't take it personal. Rather, just listen and try to withhold frustration or it may be more difficult for him or her to open up later.
"Planting the seeds of recovery from addiction is a delicate balancing act requiring patience and unconditional love but it's not impossible," says Larson.
For more insights and tips about helping a person take on addiction issues, check out Gateway's Roadmap to Understanding Substance Abuse at RecoveryGateway.org/Roadmap.
About Gateway Alcohol & Drug Treatment
Since 1968 our goal has been straightforward: to help clients get their life back on track and achieve a life of sobriety, free from drug use and symptoms of mental illness, that is productive, socially responsible, and healthy. Gateway Foundation is the largest nonprofit treatment provider in the country that specializes in the treatment of substance use disorders, providing treatment for men, women, adolescents, and clients diagnosed with co-occurring mental health disorders.
Gateway's Community Division has treatment centers located throughout Illinois, including Carbondale, Chicago, Lake County, Fox Valley, Springfield, and
the St. Louis Metro East area. These centers offer residential and outpatient treatment services for adults, teens, and adolescents accessed through insurance, state funding, and self-pay.
Gateway's professional clinicians help thousands of individuals successfully complete treatment by developing a personalized plan that treats the underlying causes of substance abuse—not just addiction to drugs or alcohol.
Learn more about insurance coverage, treatment options, or Gateway's confidential consultation at RecoverGateway.org or call 877-505-HOPE (4673).
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